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Sunday, November 11, 2012

The Positive (and Negative) Influence of Parenthood

 
“Eli’s sons were wicked men; they had no regard for the Lord.”
1 Samuel 2:12
 
One of the most profound and sobering privileges in life is found in parenthood. It produces incredible, reciprocating blessings. But the parental blessing also demands intense commitment and resolve in order to be fully realized. Guardianship is not for the faint of heart for it requires a taxing disposition, a disposition that should include discipline, patience, compassion, grace, love, conviction, spiritual intensity and consistency, a kingdom-oriented focus, and an unyielding desire to model, and instruct, godly virtues day-in and day-out. Parenthood is clearly more than supplying food and clothing needs to children; it is about dispensing wisdom and guiding impressionable, tender minds in the ways and Word of God. Unfortunately, history is littered with many examples of individuals who failed to accept, or cherish, the call of parenthood. In the process, they squandered precious opportunities to nobly lead receptive souls into a redemptive, God-glorifying existence.
 
And such is the case study captured in the latter half of 1 Samuel 2. In this passage, the text focuses on three key characters: Eli and his two sons (Hophni and Phinehas). Eli was a high priest stationed in Shiloh, where the Ark of the Covenant was at the time. In 1 Samuel 2:12, Eli’s sons were old enough to have assumed some of the priestly duties. But Scripture offers a rebuke of Eli’s sons. In short, they were wicked. They utilized their ministry positions to extract additional food offerings from the Hebrew people for their own pleasure, or profit perhaps. Plus, they participated in non-marital sexual acts with women assigned to be helpers in the ceremonial worship tasks. Clearly, Eli’s sons did not appreciate the tremendous and influential responsibilities they had been given. The Bible states in 1 Samuel 2:17 that the sins of the young priests were great, indicating the offenses they were committing were not trivial. Furthermore, there appeared to be no remorse on the part of Hophni and Phinehas. It would seem that this lewd behavior went on for many years. God’s Word mentions the sins of Eli’s sons began when Samuel was a young boy, but it was only when Samuel had grown up that Scripture makes note of Eli’s rebuke of the immoral conduct of his sons, confirming that this was a pattern that had long been practiced.
 
Although the demeanor of Hophni and Phinehas is deplorable and inexcusable, it is Eli’s absentee fatherly authority that is of particular interest for this analysis. By this I mean Eli likely had numerous opportunities to condemn the actions of his sons, but apparently chose not to say anything until the corrupted morality had been firmly entrenched in Hophni and Phinehas. Eli’s extended silence essentially communicated approval. Presented several windows of influence, the high priest opted to abandon his paternal role. Eli withdrew when he desperately needed to engage. He retreated when he needed to confront. He condoned when he needed to chastise. He willingly chose not to exercise His God-given position of guidance. As a result, untold scores of Israelites were hurt, frustrated, and confused by the ministry negligence ushered in through Eli’s sons. And somehow Eli was content with allowing the worship carelessness to continue during his watch.
 
To abuse the platform of ministry is a most horrid thought, and God does not view it favorably. Religious leaders are charged to motivate others through biblically-based integrity, not self-centered intentions. Eli lost sight of this godly pursuit. In fact, 1 Samuel 2:29 implies that Eli himself partook in the excess food offerings, the shameful practice that his sons had helped establish. Instead of a father positively influencing his sons, the sons were negatively influencing their father. This was completely backwards. Eli should have inspired his sons through a humble and sacrificial lifestyle. He should not have succumbed to the appalling values that Hophni and Phinehas held. But when our spiritual vision veers away from God and becomes fixated on ourselves then the holy boundaries Scripture defines are quickly and routinely discarded.
 
In the end, Eli’s legacy was marred by the shameful etiquette of his sons. He could have said corrective words earlier. He could have prayed earnestly for divine intercession. He could have stood opposed to the path of fraud and publicly reprimanded Hophni and Phinehas. But Eli apparently did none of the above. And thus the positive, or negative, influence of parenthood calls parents of every generation to embrace and rightly lead children in the ways and Word of God. It is an ultra-critical issue because the decency, or depravity, of family, and thereby society, hangs in the balance.

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